Parenting is one of the toughest jobs around and one of the most vital. If you’re a strict parent, your child could end up with behavioral problems.
On the flip side, if you buy your kids expensive handbags, allow them to drink in the house or cave to their every whim then you might be raising an asshole.
Raising kids doesn’t come with a manual. If only it did, right? But it doesn’t so we as parents have to do our best to make sure we raise good, well-mannered kids, not assholes.
5 Parenting Tips To NOT Raise Asshole Kids
We’ve put a list of tips of three best parenting strategies from preschoolers to teens. Read through these tips and adjust them to your own situation.
#1 Watch What You Say and How You Say It
Consider what you are actually saying to your child. If you use positive, encouraging words your child can grow up to be a confident adult.
On the other hand, if you use negative words and always criticize what they do, it can develop insecurities in your child.
#2 Use Positive Reinforcements
Positive reinforcement is more effective than punishment when handling difficult behaviors. It is important to remember that some children are dealing with a lot of emotional baggage and may not know how to express themselves properly. You can help them by demonstrating the proper way to express themselves.
When you approach your kids with anger, they begin to experience guilt. Any anger that parents develop while their children are present must be tightly controlled. When anger is expressed in front of children, it is frightening and hurts their feelings of self-worth. It shows that displays of anger are an acceptable way of dealing with problems. Yelling and getting angry over minor mistakes is also harmful.
#3 Got Rules? Put It In Writing
It is important to write down the rules that your children are expected to follow. Be sure that they are aware of the consequences that rule breaking carries. Setting these limits and rules for your kids can show them how much you care and love them enough to go to this trouble. Setting rules will also make it easier to co-parent successfully with your spouse or partner.
#4 Create A Bedtime Routine For Smaller Kids And Stick To It
It is important for smaller children to follow a routine each night at bedtime. A regular bedtime routine will help transition your child’s mindset from playtime to bedtime.
A regular routine such as a bath time, putting on pajamas and then brushing teeth helps your child to wind down and be ready for bed. If your child understands and expects what is coming next, he or she won’t give you any resistance.
#5 Be Honest
Honest is the best policy – that goes for parents especially.
Here’s a good example: If you adopted your child, your child is probably going to find out at some point and start asking questions.
Adopted children are always going to want to know where they were originally from, and naturally they will look to you for the answers.
Never hide the truth about their biological parents. This will help to avoid resentment or anger later on if they find the truth out for themselves.
Wrapping It Up
While devoting time to your children is important, taking time for yourself is essential, too. Drawing and enforcing this boundary allows you to maintain your individuality while still being an excellent parent.
We hope these tips serve as a good resource for you now and in the future to ensure you don’t raise asshole kids. And they can help you develop an admirable relationship of trust with your kids.
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